Let me introduce you to a type of lie known as 'cute' lies.

Cute lies are lies that don't bring hate.

A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent.

—William Blake

There were days when I lied about almost everything.

There were days I felt like I was a damn bullshit liar.

I could have won the book of bluffmaster for my lies. Yeah, I bluffed, and I tried overcoming it, but I failed almost every time.

Again, after trying, I bluffed about something. I knew I was being liked because of my bluffs and lies.

And that’s why I didn’t overcome it. I was getting something out of my lies. I was being liked.

Now, you would think, why should I listen to your bluffs and your lies anymore? Why should I read your articles anymore? You are a damn bullshit liar.

Before you close the door in my face, let me make my point and explain myself to you.

Wait for a moment. I might blow your mind with what I am about to say.

“Cute lie balloon”

Optimised (white) lies, and it’s working.

Today also I will be called a liar, but with a massive difference from the days of the past. Here’s what I got about truth, so I became a good liar.

Truth is necessary to be informed for those who need to hear it, but when you use truth as a weapon—to shame, harm, manipulate, or humiliate—it becomes more destructive than even lies.

That’s where white lies come in front of the truth. Lies are generally seen as wrong, but sometimes they come from a place of care. That’s what white-optimized lies are.

When you save your brother or a friend from their parents’ scolding for their wrong deeds by lying about the situation. This lie comes from a place of care.

After saving them, you personally explain to them why you saved them, saying it won’t happen next time. They are responsible for their deeds, and you are not responsible for saving them every time with white lies.

Saying lots of white lies can attack back. Be sensible with what you lie about and realise if they are white enough or not.

White, more optimised lies foster relationships because they come from a place of care.

It’s not just what you say that matters, but why and how you say it.

A type of lie known as ‘cute’ lies.

You and people like you will slap me if I say the key to relationships is bluffing. But I am serious. Bluffing helps build strong relationships. I know you now would like to slap me more tightly for this. What the hell am I saying? Right?

Stay with me. This is where I’ll blow your mind.

Let me comfort you. The key to building relationships is bluffing. Bluffing in a limit. bluffing with kindness. Bluffing, where people know you are bluffing and say you’re a damn good bluffer. These bluffs of yours are called cute lies.

Whatever else you term it. Sweet lies, kind lies, or anything you want to call them.

You lie because you want to make it memorable, and the best thing is that cute lies don’t hurt. Instead, it makes you even happier whenever you remember it.

Here is an example of cute lies:

Let’s say you are coming back home from your school, college, office, or anywhere.

You got a phone call on the way from your mother, wife, or anyone who is at home you care about, and they care about you.

You pick up the phone and say hello to the one on the other end of the call.

He or she asks, “Where are you, or when will you be back home?

You say, “I’ll be back in five minutes,” but the way takes more than twenty minutes to step in.

You said this phrase mischievously, so they know you are cutely lying to them.

With that, the caller scolds you with love and says, “I know where you are. Come fast, or I’ll smash you up.”

You laugh, they laugh, and the lie ends here.

I may sound silly here, but it is what it is.

I found this cute lying thing so fascinating that I’ve tried it many times. It fosters my relationship with my close ones: my friends and family.

There are many things to do to build a good relationship. Apart from all of them, I found these cute lies filled with laughter and happiness. It is a key to building good and better relationships with your close ones.

Hone cute lies in your life. Stay mischievous. Laugh. Be happy with people.

Oh, I forgot one thing. Let me tell you now.

I forgot to give you a real-life example for optimised (white) lies. Here it comes.

Suppose you know someone who failed at something important.

Telling them, "You failed because you're lazy," might be true, but saying it in front of others or in a mocking way can deeply hurt them.

In contrast, a lie like "You’ll be fine; this doesn’t matter" may not be accurate, but it might comfort them in the moment, which brings care between both of you.

The truth revealed with cruel intent hurts more than a lie told with kindness.

Somewhere, at some point, we all have been liars. It might be wrong for the world, but what matters is the intent behind every lie you tell.

Sumit Prasad

Some of my notes from this week, in case you missed it.

Sumit,
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