It's impossible to be your best self without...
“Disappointment is a hot burning fuel. Let it light your fire to become better."
—James Clear
It was the day I didn’t have breakfast and hurried to attend my practical examination of Java programming language.
I got to sit in front of one of my favourite teachers, who was about to ask me questions. At that moment, I was excited, but the very next moment, when he countered a question, I went blank.
He again asked another question, and again I went blank. He tried more, but I didn’t answer any of them.
Yeah, shame on me!
At last, the teacher stated, “You disappointed me, Sumit. You were a bright student.”
I got stuck and speechless. I said sorry and left.
With a face of disappointment and embarrassment, I came back home and had a word with myself.
I thinked, I thinked twice, thrice, and I thinked a few more times and said, “This is not good. I need to do something.”
The next day, another practical exam in another programming language. I was prepared this time. The same teacher was assigned to me. He asked questions, I answered them, he countered a few more, I answered them.
Guess what? I answered them all.
The teacher stated, “You studied well today. I am impressed.”
This was all because of the disappointment. It forced me to improve.
This is not all. After getting praised, I again thought about it. I thought about disappointment and embarrassment in a new way.
It's impossible to be your best self without disappointing some of the people sometimes
The only way to accomplish something meaningful is to endure days, weeks, months, or even years of embarrassing failure.
—Sahil Bloom
Every expert was once a beginner.
Every beginner is afraid of failing. They fear getting embarrassed. And that’s where they fail the most.
You need to have the guts to deal with every embarrassment that falls in front of you. In fact, you have to embrace and seek to get embarrassed for failing.
You know what? Forget about getting embarrassed for a while, and think of learning something valuable from it.
Or, think of getting rewarded for it. For example, you are acting in an act or drama, and you get the role of a person who always fails at something all the time. For the role, you will be awarded a golden trophy and a huge amount of cash prize.
I am sure you won’t miss the chance of getting rewarded with such a huge reward. You are going to grab it. Right?
Take life’s embarrassment like that only. It’s an act. In life, there will be lots of trial and error, and in between there will be some phases where you get embarrassed regularly, which is good.
It’s good to get embarrassed. It’s good to upset people some of the times. There’s a benefit for you here; you get to learn some valuable lessons.
The lessons you need to experience come from disappointment and embarrassment. Upsetting others and getting embarrassed by yourself around others.
This is key. This is the thought I had after getting praised and dealing with embarrassment.
Now, allow me to ask one question to all of you, my fellow readers.
Are you ready to get embarrassed?
Tell me, yes or no? If yes, why the hell yes, and if no, why the fuck not?
Are you ready to get embarrassed?
I am going to ask this one last time. Are you ready to get embarrassed?
A little. You say
Why little? I ask
You are getting your benefits here. Still, why are you saying that to me?
Don’t I get my reward for influencing you this much?
All I have written from the start. Are you going to spoil them all?
Please don’t. I request you to get embarrassed. Embrace it. Love it as a beginner.
Still, again, touching the earth below my feet, I am asking you, “Are you ready to get embarrassed?”
I hope you say, “Fucking yes!” this time. Say it, spit it out. Say it again.
Say it with me, “I am fucking ready to get embarrassed.”
Embrace getting embarrassed around people because that’s where you learn and grow the most.
Embrace, learn, and grow.
Sumit
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