I hate this system of putting one on the top and one on the bottom.
This system makes us worse human beings.
Strength and guidance, all that I wish for my friends.
—Drake
I used to be so hard on friends. I used to fake my friendship with them. This was when I was in primary school. You can say it was my childhood phase before my teenage years.
I was an average student in the class who survived passing the exams with average marks. These marks were nothing to me, but I used to get jealous of toppers. They used to be good at everything. They were good at studies and other activities. They used to get praised by teachers for that.
This thing pissed me off.
Yeah, I said it, “Why not me?”
When I said this and started working on it, I turned out to be an extraordinary student. The average student life was gone. Teachers praised me, and the whole school started to know me. I was becoming famous like those toppers were. I got many opportunities to take part in other activities like toppers do.
With this, jealousy was gone, but other things came, like I was fueled with ego and pride. I started getting harsh with friends when they asked me for help. I considered myself on top, and everyone else below my feet.
It all went down when one day, on the day of the final examination results, one of my batchmates started crying seeing his results. He was the topper of all time. He always stood first and grabbed the first position. But this time I took his place. I came first in the class. I was happy about that, but seeing him cry made me unhappy for him. I know how much effort it takes to get this position. I would have also cried if I had come lower than first.
When I was at home, I started thinking about why this grading thing happens. Why are we being compared? Why do we let someone feel low about their marks?
I hate this grading system! I don’t want to feel low about my marks, and I don’t want to see others feeling low about theirs.
I decided.
I decided to help. I decided to lose my ego and pride and help my friends get good marks.
I wanted all of us to win. There’s no place for me if I win alone without my friends.
I wanted to help each one of us to win.
I hate this grading system of schools. (It makes us worse human beings.)
I hate this system of putting someone on top and someone on the bottom. Now, these first, second, third, and fourth things piss me off.
It feels awesome when the headmaster of your school calls you on the stage to felicitate you with one of the first, second, third, or fourth positions.
Also, it feels worse to see that you are not in those positions. You feel like an outsider. Trust me on this: it feels like you are ill with something serious and are ostracized.
I’ve been there, and I hope you have too been there in most cases.
We learned to hate each other from this timeline. We disliked each other because of this bullshit first, second, and third. Hating each other won’t take us any further. It only lets us be disgusted and feel bad about it, feel bad about ourselves.
No matter how hard we work on our studies and other activities, there will always be first, second, and third positions, which will help us to do nothing but hate each other more.
It makes us worse human beings. Beings who are disgusted and full of hatred for each other.
Let’s hate this system together. Are you with me? Let’s go.
The system won’t change, but we can change ourselves.
The first and foremost step to change is wanting to change. Most of us suck at this. Either we love to hate or love being hated. All of this is because we don’t care or want to be on top. Being on top is good, but being alone on top is not as good as you think it is.
We can ask meaningful questions to get started with this change. They are:
Would it be okay if I were winning alone?
Would I feel seen if I don’t like people below me?
Will I be okay being with the people I hate?
Will I be comfortable around the people above me?
If you rethink these questions and answer them accordingly, you will see one thing missing. Unity. We are not united with each other. The problem is that we think the people above us are different, and vice versa.
The change we want will happen when we start thinking we are one, which is actually what we are.
A step to make us better human beings with a better system.
I believe categorizing categories will help us be better human beings. Categories, in a sense, have no first, second, and third positions. Just a group of people with the same characteristics.
Let’s say there is a subject called science. We put this subject in a category and name it as Sciencogory, where people or students who are interested will be added.
This system can be adapted all over the world in different sectors: schools, colleges, businesses, corporations, and more.
This system, too, may create conflict between different categories, but if we own that we are all united with each other and here to help each other, then there will be a better world with better human beings.
We just need to stop confronting each other. We need to believe that we are one. Whether it is human to human or category to category, whenever there is help needed, we should unite.
Let’s unite and make a better world with better people and a better system.
Sumit,
Founder of Simple Digest
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