Four giving things you should be sensible with
Maybe, sometimes you need to be reluctantly frugal, a miser, stingy, a niggard, a penny-pincher, or cheap too.
If you are a giver, remember to learn your limits because the takers don't have any.
Whenever this giving thing comes, the most hyped thing asked for is money, whether it is lending money or borrowing money.
People ask for money out of shame because of compulsion.
People give money because they are humans with emotions.
It’s not just about money. This giving thing also comes when asked for love, work, and health.
In today’s digest, we will dig into the ‘give-and-take relationship approach’ and more.
Money, a giving thing
A month ago, one of my cousins asked me for some money. I gave him the money he asked for, thinking I would get my money back in a few hours or maybe days. But I was wrong. This man, my cousin, was trapping me. He has lost his 9-to-5 job, which he didn’t tell me earlier. He keeps on pushing the date. I am tired of asking for my own money every single day. Plus, I got blocked. Whooooo, what a surprise!
I might tell my brother, “Fuck up. You asshole!”
Or, I can learn a lesson from here.
Lesson: People lie for this money thing. Never trust them. They get emotional when asking for it, but when the giving time comes, their emotions fade away.
You might get a trusted person like me, but still, follow this rule:
The rule: If you can’t afford it easily, don’t lend it easily.
People change themselves after getting help, especially with money.
Don’t blame them, blame yourself. You are the one who fell into their trap.
Love, a giving thing
We should shower love everywhere. Love is infinite. You can give love to anyone unlimitedly. But what if the love you are showering there is of no value? What if you lose the most valuable thing, your self-respect? What if people don’t value your love? What if they don’t care at all?
I am saying this out of these books and philosophy, you’ll be torn out. Fuck believing in unconditional love in this unwantedly changing world. What's the use of this love if it tore you down?
Recently, I shared a story about this thing. It’s not actually about love, but you will get the idea. Click here to read.
Lesson: Shower love everywhere, but find value for your love. You can’t love more if you are getting torn up. Don’t be frugal, but be a value seeker.
The rule: Don’t be frugal or cheap for your love, but be a value seeker. Value is vital.
Work and Health, giving things
I brought work and health together because I want to connect them in one. To unleash the connection between work and health, we must look backwards. The thing is, from the beginning, when we were living with our parents at home, we were asked to work. Bring this and that from the market, study in the early morning every day, do the thing now, make your bed now, and much more. I bet these things have happened to you. If one denies doing these things, they will be called lethargic. People will tell you that your health will go down if you don’t move yourself and do these things.
This same mentality has been brought up in us till now. Today, we believe health is doing the required work that has been asked to be done. But this is not the truth. The truth has been said by a German philosopher named Arthur Schopenhauer, and it goes like this:
Health outweighs all other blessings so much that one may really say that a healthy beggar is happier than an ailing king.
A healthy person will feel good when he is actually healthy.
A healthy person will be happier when he is actually healthy.
A healthy person will have no worries when he is actually healthy.
A healthy person will live in peace, cheerful temperament, and enjoyment when he is actually happy.
How can running into the market three times in fifteen minutes make you healthy? How can running to your boss after every thirty minutes make you happy? I believe health brings happiness, but I will not be happy doing these things.
Lesson: Health is a giving thing. It is a giving thing you can give yourself. It is a precious thing you can gift to yourself. Work, you give it to others, because many times you work for others. Your work might be the thing you love to do, but still, you are doing it for others.
The rule: Don’t mix up your health and your work.
Health is for you, for your own happiness and work is for others, even if you love your work.
Final thoughts
I said this at the start. I will say the same thing in the end too, that is if you are a giver, remember to learn your limits because the takers don't have any. I am telling you this seriously: you need to be sensible when you are a giver; you have to be reluctantly frugal, a miser, stingy, a niggard, a penny-pincher, or cheap too.
All of these because the takers don’t have any limits. They can take plenty, but you can’t give plenty. So, as a giver, I want you to learn your limits.
Sumit,
Founder of Simple Digest
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